EVERYONE HAS A CHOICE:  TO WIN OR LOSE

 

Positive self-expectations

 

The body expresses what the mind is concerned about.  You get what you expect.  Expect the best and you will do your best. 

 

Are you optimistic?

Do you expect the best for yourself?

How do you respond following a mistake?

Do you feel self-pity or do you look at a problem with the confidence that you can correct it and do better next time?

Do you accept praise and criticism?

 

Learn to use positive self-talk, such as, “I was good today and I can be even better tomorrow”  or “Next time I’ll get it – I can do it!”

 

Try to review problems as opportunities.  Be intense but not tense.

 

Positive self-motivation

 

Motivation is an inside job.  Try to be motivated with desires.  Say to yourself, “I want to do it and I can do it!”

 

Are you motivated by the fear of failure or by the desire to attain your vision?

 

Write down your visions as a player:  (Add your most important personal desires)

 

 

 

 

 

Write down the benefits of achieving your visions:

 

 

 

 

Look for role models – people who have achieved what you want or are currently doing what you hope to do.  Pick some of their best qualities and incorporate them into your behavior.  Become obsessed with learning and learn from the best.

 

Positive self-image

 

Visualize yourself beating a player or making a save.  Now replay it in slow motion.  Feel the vision as realistically as possible.

 

Set aside 15 minutes each day to relax, meditate and imagine yourself achieving your goals.

 

Positive self-direction

 

Where do you want to be in three years?  One year?  What’s your most important priority this month?  Create a calendar and a journal that enables you to plot out what you accomplish.  This gives you a timetable to see what you are learning and how you are growing as a person along the way.

 

Positive self-control

 

You must accept full responsibility for yourself.  You have the power to control your life; now assume the responsibility for it.

 

Understand that setbacks, when they occur, are not fun or wished for, but they can provide direction and motivation.

 

No successful person has ever gone through life without some setbacks or failures.

 

Take credit for your successes but also accept the blame when it is appropriate.

 

List the habits you want to change and list what you want to exchange them for.

 

 

 

 

 

Now, look in the mirror.  What do you see?  What you see is really your choice, just as is your choice to win or lose.


TEN STEPS TO A WINNING EDGE

 

1.      Are you coachable?  Can you take criticism without looking for an alibi?  Are you a know-it-all?  Do you always to try to improve?

2.      Are you a positive team member?  Do you contribute to team morale, or do you bellyache and complain?  Are you up when things go your way, down when they don’t?  Do you support your teammates and coaches, or do you knock them?

3.      Are you possessed with the spirit of competition which fires an intense desire to be successful?  Do you never take “no” for an answer when there’s a job to be done?  Does it bother you to give less than 100%?

4.      Are you mentally tough?  When the going get tough, do you get tougher?  Do you make excuses or do you suck it up and get the job done?

5.      How are you under pressure?  Can you concentrate on what must be done?  Can you shut out of your mind a previous failure, foul or personal insult in order to give special attention to the play that is happening here and now?

6.      Do you have an inherent desire to improve?  Are you eager to work diligently on your skills, especially those you are weak in?

7.      Are you willing to practice?  Do you just put in your time or do you practice with the same intensity you bring to a match?

8.      Are you willing to make sacrifices?

9.      Are you willing to be impersonal toward your opponent?  Do you shut out such feelings as fear and anger, except to play as hard as possible within the rules?

10.  Are you willing to fulfill your responsibility as an athlete?  Do you recognize that your attitude and actions on and off the field must be those of a class person representing a class program?