EVERYONE HAS A CHOICE:  TO WIN OR LOSE

 

Positive self-expectations

 

The body expresses what the mind is concerned about.  You get what you expect.  Expect the best and you will do your best. 

 

Are you optimistic?

Do you expect the best for yourself?

How do you respond following a mistake?

Do you feel self-pity or do you look at a problem with the confidence that you can correct it and do better next time?

Do you accept praise and criticism?

 

Learn to use positive self-talk, such as, “I was good today and I can be even better tomorrow”  or “Next time I’ll get it – I can do it!”

 

Try to review problems as opportunities.  Be intense but not tense.

 

Positive self-motivation

 

Motivation is an inside job.  Try to be motivated with desires.  Say to yourself, “I want to do it and I can do it!”

 

Are you motivated by the fear of failure or by the desire to attain your vision?

 

Write down your visions as a player:  (Add your most important personal desires)

 

 

 

 

 

Write down the benefits of achieving your visions:

 

 

 

 

Look for role models – people who have achieved what you want or are currently doing what you hope to do.  Pick some of their best qualities and incorporate them into your behavior.  Become obsessed with learning and learn from the best.

 

Positive self-image

 

Visualize yourself beating a player or making a save.  Now replay it in slow motion.  Feel the vision as realistically as possible.

 

Set aside 15 minutes each day to relax, meditate and imagine yourself achieving your goals.

 

Positive self-direction

 

Where do you want to be in three years?  One year?  What’s your most important priority this month?  Create a calendar and a journal that enables you to plot out what you accomplish.  This gives you a timetable to see what you are learning and how you are growing as a person along the way.

 

Positive self-control

 

You must accept full responsibility for yourself.  You have the power to control your life; now assume the responsibility for it.

 

Understand that setbacks, when they occur, are not fun or wished for, but they can provide direction and motivation.

 

No successful person has ever gone through life without some setbacks or failures.

 

Take credit for your successes but also accept the blame when it is appropriate.

 

List the habits you want to change and list what you want to exchange them for.

 

 

 

 

 

Now, look in the mirror.  What do you see?  What you see is really your choice, just as is your choice to win or lose.